Let me start this off by saying I'm almost 28 and single. Pause for gasps of horror ya, I get it. By now, everyone including the weird girl in 2nd grade who used to befriend spiders and collect dust bunnies is married and probably has a baby on the way. Can I just say it? Dating in your 20s is a total cluster fuck. People start getting swept up and then all of a sudden you're 28, single, and wondering how you're going to get through the Hunger Games of dating before you hit I mean it is, though.
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Dating in your early 20s is like catching fish in a barrel, but once you hit a certain again all of a sudden it becomes an audition for a Broadway play you don't even want to be on. I don't want to make myself presentable. I don't want to giggle at every one of his terrible jokes. Why aren't you two together anymore? By the way, you shouldn't be allowed to be in weddings if you're single.
It's not that I feel the need to be in a relationship because of some biological countdown or an overpriced party that is more for your family and friends than for you. Because here's the thing, you can not want kids, not want to get married, be the most independent boss babe out there and still just want to love someone and have that love reciprocated.
You want to find a partner who you can share your life with, the good and the bad, with no judgment, burden or obligation.
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Especially post break up, you just want someone to give you attention and to take an interest in you since the person you were with no longer does. Now that's something that has changed from when I was in my early 20s. In my early 20s, when I got dumped I would just party wth my gal pals until I got distracted by the next guy at the bar.
It doesn't work like that anymore. Dating in your late 20s means you get invested. You're mature enough to keep yourself open. You know what being open even fucking means!!! I'll level with you. I just got dumped by someone who I felt really safe with. He's liked me for a long time and I was so sure it was going to work out.
So, I did the late 20s thing. I let myself be open. I let myself believe that this would be long term. I didn't feel like we were rushing anything but I had no reason to be doubtful or to believe that I'd ever have to consider the outcome that I'm forced to face now.
And that's when you hear it. Something you never heard in your early 20s but has become the resounding bell of your late 20s, "I'm not lovable.
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Which is why I'm sitting here with a half drunk bottle of cheap merlot listening to Dallas Green like the emotional mess that my week has been. There is that fear that you'll never meet someone. Or by the time you do, your eggs will be shriveled up worse than your finger after sitting in a hot tub for too long. The voice of doubt and judgement only gets louder as we get older. We are so quick to blame ourselves and that makes sense. When you get dumped it's hard to conceptualized that it's not you.
There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them. IDK man, depends what you're looking for. No doubt there are a lot of single women in their 30s in NYC. The question is whether those are the people you want to be limited to when looking for a wife. Was just on NJ Transit the other weekend headed back to the city, and across from me is this woman in her mid thirties catching up with a friend, telling her about how she broke up with her long term boyfriend recently because she's "Not ready to settle down" and "Wants to be a boss ass bitch.
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I felt bad for her. Her looks were fading, and it sounds like she won't try to find something lasting until she makes the million that it didn't sound like she is ever going to make. Not that I want to paint the whole 30 something crowd with one brush - but there's a selection bias within that pool for people who are iffy about marriage etc and who have very rigid ideas about the preconditions for a successful relationship that don't really comport with reality, imo. Bro just go to Russia and wave your blue passport around, you'll be married to a gold digging smokeshow in 24 hours.
I also dont plan on settling down until early 30s, but I still spend most of my free time chasing girls. Its fun, but I kinda wish I was more focused on a side hustle instead as most of these relationships are pointless I date them times fuck them times and then just move on the the next. However, there are some upsides, like im getting really good with girls so I can see it being easier snagging a dime to settle down with once I am ready.
I'm a female and I'd say just focus on your career. If you end up being really successful you'll have plenty of opportunities to find women. Not that women are only interested in financial success, but some women just prefer older more accomplished men. There's no need to rush into marrying some kindergarten teacher that can't comprehend the need to work long hours. I find the audible version to be the best of all choices to receive this information. But it is the reality.
It makes no sense for the original poster to meet women and spend time or money on them if he does not want to. I hope the original poster stops wasting his time and continues to focus on his career since that is what he wants right now in his life. BryceLarkin I really hope you buy this audiobook and change your approach to dating value your time.
Able bodied men in the prime of the lives forced into wage slavery. Missing out on fornicating with all the young er girls during this time. I have a lot of data points on this. As a year-old guy, I'm not sure what type of woman you can realistically date. If you're really good-looking, you can definitely still get laid, but you're honestly still kind of a child. You've only been out of college for probably two years. Working in asset management, you're probably not even an associate yet. That's not exactly 'poor', but that's definitely not great money either. I'm in my early 30s, and have dated some excellent women through my 20s.
I didn't seriously consider getting married until my late 20s or maybe even I'm still not convinced I want to get married, and I have almost no interest in having children. I once had a boss sit down everyone in the NY office to talk about different dimensions of success.
People had been whingeing about compensation and promotions, and he was trying to make the point that they didn't have their priorities straight. He had made it to the C-suite of Solomon Brothers in his mid 30s precisely because he always put his career first until he was at least He made the point that doing so wasn't for everyone, and that there are many dimensions of success outside of financial or career success.
But if you want to be rich, you want to be powerful, and you want the accolades that come with those things, you generally have to make some sacrifices along the way. You might have to sacrifice having a family of your own for a little while. And you might have to compromise on your time with your family when you eventually have one. You can have a fulfilling relationship in your 20s, get married, have kids, and still thread the needle and become a boss, but for every dimension of success outside of work you choose to prioritize early in life, the less likely it becomes that you'll actually become a major success.
The thing is, even if you make all of those sacrifices, you might still not make it to the top. And if you don't, you still have a shot, though that shot is at a much narrower target. It sounds like you've already made up your mind to focus on your career, and are getting a bit of FOMO about the path not taken. A relationship in your mids might make sense if you lived in Dallas, but you live in NY.
Unless you have family money, if the woman you marry doesn't make her own income, you're too poor to get married anyway. Are you going to go back to b-school or graduate school? If so, you have 2 full years of dicking around to meet new people and still 'settle down' by the time you're 30 if that's what you want.
As you become slightly more mature and more successful, you'll also become more worldly and more of a catch in general. The types of girls interested in cultivating a relationship with a year-old in New York with the view to marrying them in the next few years aren't generally worth marrying anyway if you have big career goals. My one caveat to that is if you can marry a legitimately rich chick. If you can cultivate a relationship with someone who vaults you out of your current social class, then knock yourself out.
Best time for dating also is late 20s early 30s. Man I loved it smashed the puss and found the one. Early to mid 29s just smash any pussy you can. Ugly or not just experience it, it's great too - and don't worry about the relationship stuff if that's not your priority now. Who knows you may meet "the one" who changes your mind about it early. Have at least one or two hot friends. This sets you up for success as their hot friends wanna "date" the guy that has been vouched for and isn't sending them "s3nd nudes" at 3AM on bumble.
I've been in NYC for 3. The only one I could say is both really hot and a really sweet girl is already dating some dude and has been since years before I met her. Women here look nice, but a majority of them would probably make lousy wives. So many are materialistic, or militant feminists, or have some other non-starter characteristic that makes them someone I would not even consider marrying and raising a kid with. I think I'm cursed by having started my career in Texas. Most NYC chicks I've met aren't hot enough to pull off their attitudes.
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